As a young adult, I had this checklist for the things or qualities I am looking for in my partner. Let me re-create this checklist, before I can rant further.
- Loyal
- Honest
- Loving
- Caring
- Shouldn’t abscond
- Educated
- Has a job
- Loves my family
- Speaks well
This was my checklist as an eighteen-year-old. Now that I am 35, I am mature enough to understand people (to some extent). I have to reflect back and re-work on my checklist.
The above checklist is nothing but asking for the bare-minimum. It is not high-maintenance. It isn’t a lot of asking from a man. These are very basic things that not just he but I will also bring to the table. There is nothing mentioned about looks.
At the time, it sounded like a wish-list, but honestly, these are just the basics. There are skills and qualities everyone should have. A lot of people when heard of this checklist, made fun of me for being over-ambitious.
“Over-ambitious?”, I wondered. “Expecting your partner to love and care for you. Be honest with you and never cheat, never leaves you. Is educated, can speak well and has a good job who also loves my family, how can these be ‘over-ambitious’?”
Has the world come to the level that asking for the bare-minimum is now a luxury?
My checklist as thirty five-year-old is not much different – apart from the above checklist just a few more things added:
- Accepts me as I am and understands my quirks
- Is financially stable and is smart about managing debts and investments
- Enjoys food like me
- Has the most difficult discussion casually and the most casual one with deep intensity
Are these a lot to ask for? I feel these are the bare minimums. I won’t be budging on these. Even if that means I have to stay single for a long time.
I am participating in the A to Z Writing Challenge 2025, and this is the second entry.
